This question has been asked so many times by so many people and the answer is always different. Whitney Houston said you go back “to the open arms of a love that’s waiting there.” Ummmh, I don’t know about that. I remember coming out of a relationship and I couldn’t eat, sleep or even think straight. I wondered why all the pain if love wasn’t supposed to hurt. I did all the right things or so I thought. Even in the darkest hour when your spirit is wounded and you feel that your heart will surely bust, there is still hope. My mother in law always told me that the darkest hour is just before day in the morning. Meaning that the sun will shine again and our heart will soar like an eagle because true love and happiness is not just a myth but a reality.
The next time we plunge into a relationship if we learned anything from the pain of the previous one, we’ll be more attentive and not dismiss signs that may be telling us something important. Maybe we’ve learned to wait and let love find us. My grandmother used to always say. “If you go looking for something you’ll find it and most of the time, it won’t be to your liking.”
Enjoy your life with yourself. Learn how to focus on your. Learn how to love yourself. When you development the confidence you need for you, other people will be drawn to you like a magnet. Please don’t let one bad relationship keep you from finding happiness in someone else. Now, before you go and say Eve, I don’t need a man to make to happy, I have myself. A man is not put in your life to make you happy. You make you happy. That man is only an enhancement to what’s already there. So if you’ve had your heart broken, and is trying to move on. Start doing some things with yourself. Get to know you better. What do you like? Try new things and you may discover some amazing things. Go to movies by yourself or with a friend. Don’t plunge into a new relationship so soon. Give yourself time to mend and breathe. It takes time to get rid of all that old baggage, time to mend that broken heart.
First of all, I am not a licensed counselor or Psychiatrist. I am only sharing with you what I have learned from my lessons and observations in life. If there is something that I say that you can use, use it. If not, discard it and let it be.